Sunday, July 6, 2014

Proof my kid really loves me!

     Not often, but occasionally, like most moms I find myself wondering if Nixon is growing up so fast that he's going to stop needing or loving me overnight. Last night, Nixon calmed those nagging fears with a simple conversation.

    A little background before story time though. Last night, after I got home from work, we all headed to the grocery store for a short trip.  Nixon was told to leave his iTouch in the car, and he started pouting and fake crying. He was warned to stop and got out of the car. He was still a little pouty so I offered him a "job". I gave him my car keys to put in his pocket. He was super excited to do it and we entered the store with one happy child!
   After around 10-15 minutes of shopping, I did a key check. I asked him to shake his pocket. He did...nothing. I dropped down and shook his pockets myself....they were both empty! I was about to lose my mind and Nixon says "Look mom, their in a quiet place!" He put them in the cup holder that's a part of the cart. Mac and I both look at each other and say "I just had a heart attack!"

   During dinner, Nixon and I talk about it:
me: Nixon I think I lost 5 years off my life tonight.
Nixon: What's that mean?
me: It means I'm going to die 5 years sooner that I was before we went shopping.
Nixon: NO! You can't die! Mommy, I need you!
me: Oh baby, I'm not really going to die. It's something adults say to be dramatic.
Nixon: I'm just a little boy still and I need my mom!
me: *hugging him* I'm sorry. I didn't mean I'm really going to die. You're going to have me around for a long time still!
Nixon: Good, I like that!

   See? Totally loves me!

I may not do everything right most of the time, but loving this boy and getting his love back....that comes naturally. 

Friday, June 27, 2014

It's been a long much has changed!

   Nixon graduated Pre-K. It was an adorable ceremony, during which Nixon proved he really does dance to the beat of a different drum. It's okay, he does an awesome robot dance! He also blew me kisses from his little area on stage and walked down the aisle waving to people on both sides, even though he had no idea who these people were. I did cry, and we had a lovely day. Mac was on terminal leave from the Navy, so he was there too!

  In other news, Mac retirement ceremony was last week. It was beautiful! I'm not sure I've totally accepted that he's going to be out of the Navy for real yet. But I'm loving having him home all the time. And he and Nixon's relationship is awesome together. We're all learning to deal with the sudden changes in our family dynamic. I'm now working 5 days a week and Mac is home with Nixon. 

   I'm sure there's more going on, but this is the short and sweet version!

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Car ride convo with Nixon

Nixon and I were driving home from our old townhouse to the new apartment. Nixon was a little low key so I started talking to him. Since I started working full-time we're not spending the time together we used too and I miss it.

Today we started talking about animals Nixon saw and that I saw at work.

Then came this:

me- Nixon, do you know is in two weeks from today?
Nixon- No! What is it, Mom?
me- It's my birthday!
Nixon- Oh, I knew that!
me- Do you know how old I'm going to be?
Nixon- Ohhhh.....I just don't know!
me- Okay, well, do you think I'm older than you are?
Nixon- Yeah, because you're my mom!
me- Okay well, if you're 5 how old am I?
Nixon- I know! You're going to be 8 years old!
me- 8?!?! Really, 8? Yeah I can do that!
Nixon- yeah, 8 is a good number for you mom!
me- How old is Daddy?
Nixon- Dad's 9 years old.
me- Works for me!

I love his little-kid logic!

Saturday, April 19, 2014

Sometimes an uncomfortable conversation really isn't that bad

   Nixon and I were in the car last week. We had stopped at a red light, and on the same corner was a Chick-Fil-A. Nixon saw the play tunnels inside the store and says "Look Mom, fun tunnels!"
   I sigh, hard, because I knew one day my personal choices to not ever step foot in a Chick-Fil-A would need to be explained to my young child. That day suddenly became the day.

me: Nixon, I'm sorry, but I will never take you into that store to play in those tunnels.
Nixon: Oh man. But why not?
me: The man that actually owns that store name, has said some things I can't support.
Nixon: Is he mean?
me: No, but he has his beliefs and I have mine.
      You know Miss N and Miss A, and how they are married, right?
Nixon: Uh-huh and they have baby R now!
me: Exactly! They are a family just like you, Daddy and I are. But the man who owns those stores think that Miss A and Miss N are wrong because they are 2 girls who married each other, instead of marrying a man like I did.
Nixon: But they love each other and have a baby! *he was really upset when he said that. I thought he was going to cry*
me: I know they are, baby. And they're happy together. They have the same thing Daddy and I have: love and happiness.
      Because that man feels the way he does and because I don't believe that Miss N and Miss A are wrong for being in love and marrying the person they love, I won't go to those stores. Not even to play in tunnels.

And here is where my kid blows my mind!
Nixon: It's okay, Mommy. I know where there are other tunnels I can play in. We can go there instead.

    And just like that, everything was right in his little world again!

Thursday, April 17, 2014

When the kiddo is sick, mom gets the most uncomfortable sleep ever

   Nixon's got a cold. He's super congested but is also a total snot-faucet. It's a faucet that's got a slow but continuous leak.

   Now, when Nixon is not sick, he is the best sleeper ever! He sleeps through the night every night only getting up to go to the bathroom and then right back to sleep. However, when he is sick he wakes up in near hysterics because he can't breathe.
   That was what happened last night.
   Mac and I rushed upstairs to get him and calm him down. Nothing was working, he was only getting more upset and coughing harder as a result. It wasn't until I asked him if he felt like he was going to be sick that I understood why he was so upset: Nixon hates vomiting of any kind and really wants to be in the bathroom if he is going to vomit. Last night he had so much phlegm in his throat it was making him vomit.
   Poor baby.
   Mac grabbed him a small cup of juice and I rubbed his back while he was in the bathroom trying to let himself get sick. After a few minutes in there he finally started to relax and wanted to go back in his bed. Mac and I both sat on the floor next to his bed and waited for him to fall asleep.
   That wasn't happening. Eventually, Nixon decided dad had to go but he wanted me to get into bed with him. Thank gods I'm short! I crawled into bed with him and rested next to him for over half an hour. I think. A little after midnight, when I heard Nixon's breathing change to a deep sleep breathing, I tried to leave and go to my bed.
   Nixon woke up and asked where I was going. I told him and he freaked out! "No, Mommy, you can't leave me!". I caved, went to my nice big and warm bed only to grab my pillow and a blanket. I returned to Nixon's room and slept in the foldout flip chair he has in there.
   I slept there until he woke up at 6:45 this morning. He kept trying to talk to me and I am not a morning person. I got up and finally got to crawl into my nice warm bed....for a couple hours at least.

   My whole body aches this morning, from sleeping on that foldout chair. But, being Nixon's mom, I'd do it all over again, if he asked me too.

   Because, seriously, when he's sick I do anything to make him feel better. even if it means I've got a kink in my neck the next morning.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Socially awkward mom....was not me today!

   I had a job interview this morning. I'm not saying I got the job, because I won't hear about it for at least a week, but I am saying I went in and was totally myself. Starting with being totally directionally challenged at the beginning. I'm the type of person who says "left" but points right, which in my head means I meant right. My finger is always correct while my mouth tends to lie. I'd give you some deep meaning to that, but the truth is I'm just odd and it drives Mac nuts!
   I was told to go "right", but I saw no finger so I was looking for a left. DOH!
   After that, I was at ease, candid and honest. The interview went well, I was interviewed by 2 people one who is a mother herself and also had a 5 year employment gap in her resume. It's comforting to know I'm not alone.

   After the interview, I went home and changed then it was time to pick up Nixon from school. Nixon had another great day at school, making it 2 weeks in a row of all good reports!

    I called Mac and asked if he was okay with me taking Nixon to Chuck E Cheese for a surprise. He was and after Nixon and I stopped home a bit, we were off.
    Nixon was so surprised when we arrived! He was super happy too!

    Shortly after Nixon had tokens in hand, he ran over to this one pirate game that is a shooter game. He loves it! As it turned out there was another kid Nixon's age that loves the game as well. They played together as a team for over half an hour! At one point his mom came over and we started talking. Turns out the kids are a month apart and there was a chance they'd be going to the same elementary school! She's new to the area and didn't know anyone else with a child going to the same school.
    Before they left, we exchanged phone numbers with vague promises for a future play date for the boys.

   For once, just once, I didn't fail at basic human interactions!

   Too bad the rest of the day fell to shit after that awesome high point.....

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Trying to teach him to be graceful when faced with disappointment

  Nixon got a Rescue Bots Beam Box for Christmas. It was his big gift from Mac and I. He loves it, really loves it, but he's not always great at dealing with not being good at one particular stage. Even though he has the option to not play this stage, he insists on playing it and getting frustrated every time he doesn't pass it.

   Today, as he playing it with his newest character he was getting more and more angry while on this one stage. I finally had enough of his outbursts Mac is sleeping because he worked last night and went to a comic signing this morning, and his constant turning on/off the game to get out of this stage. It was time to teach him the truth about life: No one is good at everything all the time.

me: Nixon, calm down. It's okay to not be good at one part of the game.
Nixon: But this one is so hard! I'm just not good at it.
me: Nixon it's okay. The important thing is you need to learn how to deal with disappointments like not being good at a part of the video game.
Nixon: It's not right. I'm just a screw-up.
*I hate that he says this when he's bad at something*
me: Nixon, you're not a screw-up. You just aren't great at this stage. You can either try harder to get better or stop playing it. What you need to do is accept disappointment with grace.
Nixon: I don't want to play anymore.
me: That's fine, you don't have to play. But you can't keep turning the game on and off just because you're not good at a part of it.
Nixon: Why not?
me: Because you aren't learning anything by doing that. You're just giving up to avoid the disappointment of not being the best at this stage.
You are so good at other parts of the game! It's okay to be less than perfect at one part. No one is good at everything all the time. I just don't want to see you giving up. Learn to deal with the disappointments in life.

He's not getting the concept of failures and disappointments easily, but I'm working on reminding him he doesn't (and won't) always be perfect. It's a tough lesson to learn, but I'm not raising him to believe he'll always win or be the best or that he has to be perfect at everything he does. All I ask is he does his best and completes the task he's working on.